It is with a mixed sense of relief and despair I see my Facebook newsfeed filling up with #MeToo stories -- relief that I am not alone and despair that so many women (and men!) I admire as friends, colleagues, and thought leaders have felt belittled in a disgraceful moment of someone else's sexual power trip.
In an odd way, I am also finding relief that we still have the freedom of speech to speak up publicly- not every woman in every country does. If this blog has been a platform for anything, I hope it has been that showing vulnerability can bring people together - I experienced it first hand all those months in the hospital and on bedrest. Too often we don't get personal, we try to avoid discomfort, and often paint a false reality. To me, that is the essence of the #MeToo movement: shared vulnerability.
As a woman, we reflect on our own identity in times of mistreatment, often kicking the curb with thoughts of being the less empowered/weaker sex. As a mother of girls, I am purely focused on the future for Emery & Grace which is why I am not shy to speak up, pursuing my PhD. when I am far too old and out of touch, and have come to re-analyze every aspect of my womanhood under a new, refined lens.
Which brings me to the media.
Now "fake news" and cable news have been getting all of the airplay these days being scorned from the left, right, and every corner of the globe, but I want to focus on "entertainment". When my newsfeed began filling up, I first thought to myself, "Gosh, I havent had a feed all on one topic like this since a major moment in Game of Thrones." And thats my friends, is exactly the problem. Is the #MeToo movement trying to be sexy where it will only capture the attention of the public for a hot second, like any episode of the overly sexualized Game of Thrones? In a backhanded way, is it sexualizing a movement like the Bachelor or Bachelorette having minds wander and encouraging people to watch a trainwreck? I wonder. I know this will be the unpopular thing to say, and at the essence of the movement it is about women's empowerment and free speech... but I want to support the victims. I want more than a hashtag, I want change.
I want to see studio execs taking handguns and overly sexualized plots out of TV series. They have become the norm, the expected, what people are tuning into. In a strange small way, isn't watching such scenes on TV in a small way condoning the pervasive and objectifying behavior throughout society? Think on it before reacting. I am not blaming the victims, I am blaming the media who has an opportunity to set an example and shift culture. We all also have a choice in what we choose to watch, support and view.
My two cents...because: Me, too.