Crafting on Bedrest: Lollipop Ghosts for the Nurses

My whole life I have always had such great respect for nurses- they truly are the lifeline for patients everywhere. So many brilliant and dedicated friends and family members have been on the front lines of taking care of others, but these past few days have given me even greater perspective for all they do.  

In complete honesty, I woke up today in a rage of tears unlike I've ever faced. Perhaps coupled by the pregnancy hormones, I felt defeated and "stuck". With Grant out of town and the baby being a handful for my parents, I was pretty lonely and feeling helpless. My nurse Deborah came right in and did more than check up on my vitals, she befriended me- acknowledging that while I may be a patient she is taking care of physically, I'm also a terrified woman who is facing a roller coaster of emotions. Excited that we reached the 25 week milestone today (hooray!) but overwhelmed that we still have 15 more weeks of pregnancy to hit the 40 mark. That is a long long time. 

If you know me well, you know I am also terrible at asking for help and sitting still, so being so dependent on these strangers has been a challenge. That said, the kindness each nurse bestows upon me makes the loneliness far more bearable. I can't do all that much to thank them, but with some basics on hand, I figured I could at least surprise them with a little sweet treat to brighten their day (and long long shifts) as they brighten mine! 

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Ghost Tootsie Pops

 a childhood favorite, my mom has made these every year! Simple and quick, was able to make a nice batch in about twenty minutes from the comfort of my hospital bed! They're not much, but it is something! 

 

Materials 

  • white paper napkins (single ply works best. I only had double in hand but pulled them apart) 
  • tootsie pops
  • fine tip black felt marker
  • pipe cleaners or ribbons

 

  1. cover each tootsie pop with the napkin
  2. secure with ribbon or pipe cleaner
  3. draw a scary ghost face
  4. enjoy!!  

 

Molly Bears: A Beautiful Gift for Families Coping with Loss

One of the most trying issues we have faced with both friends and family is finding the words and ways to support when they face loss through miscarriage. Nothing seems to be right. There are no words, just lots of emotion. Amazon has plenty of books, but all seem impersonal. Flowers are a lovely gesture, but they wilt and die which metaphorically isn't a great option either. Having never been in the shoes of these families, all seems inadequate but I am always on the look out as my loved ones and their loss are always on my mind.

Most recently, I have been sharing the book, "I'll Love You Forever" by Robert Munsch as I had been told by a friend that Munsch had actually written the book after he and his wife lost their child to miscarriage. A childhood favorite that I have frequently read to Grace, the book held such a powerful meaning once I clicked over to his website that read:

“I made that up after my wife and I had two babies born dead. The song was my song to my dead babies. For a long time I had it in my head and I couldn’t even sing it because every time I tried to sing it I cried. It was very strange having a song in my head that I couldn’t sing.

For a long time it was just a song but one day, while telling stories at a big theatre at the University of Guelph, it occurred to me that I might be able to make a story around the song.

Out popped Love You Forever, pretty much the way it is in the book.”

In the same vein, today I came across the Molly Bear on the Incompetent Cervix Facebook Page. Molly Bears is a 501c3 run on donations. While the cost to make and send each bear is around $45, the weighted bears have just a $20 fee. I applaud the model and philanthropic effort and hope to see the business grow as it is a beautiful example of thoughtfulness when there is a loss of words.